I’m a red head. I definitely identify with my hair. I’ve never buzzed my hair but I did get a very short pixie that was maybe ½ inch? I did the same things you did - I wore nicer clothes, more makeup, even bigger earrings to feel more feminine. But man did I love it when we went swimming or drove with the windows down. It was amazing. Growing it out was not amazing. It’s been long ever since, but turning forty it’s thinning. I always knew I’d be fine going grey, but thinning!? All this just to say it is a thing and I’m right there with you.
Yes, thank you! You totally get it, all of it. I'm definitely glad I did the thing, I'll never regret it, but wow what a lesson! I gotta admit I'm a little jealous of the red hair 😁 Red hair is gorgeous! Thank you so much for reading, Sara! 💕
Yes, exactly! I was about 3 months pregnant when I hit 40, so the hair loss held off during those magical prenatal months, but WOW did it overcompensate after Betsy was born! It's such an ego blow that you're totally not ready for.
I wish I knew. It was between scissors or adding hair extensions for me. And just the thought of adding more layers of hair to my already swamp-like soaked head sent me into a hot flash.😂 scissors won!
This kind of reminds me of the time I messed up cutting my own hair and I took it as an opportunity to learn how to love myself in a new way. That version of me still reminds me of that same perspective when I try new styles I don't end up liking, or only like for a little bit.
Oh that is beautiful, I love it so much! That sounds like the kind of perspective shift I'm needing, and I can't be the only one. Thank you so much for sharing this! 💕
“Hair’s The Thing” — I absolutely loved this piece. It is painfully relatable and brought me right back to my own hair horrors.
Growing up mixed (white mom, Black dad), my hair was… confused. The top? Frizzy and curly. The bottom? Stringy and straight. It had no allegiance to texture whatsoever.
And let me just add — I was born in the 80s with a mom who adored Farrah Fawcett’s hair. I’ll just let that sink in.
Your Tina Turner reference hit hard. I can still hear those ruthless third graders chanting that at me after my dad tried to fix my hair one morning — following a full meltdown over a disastrous visit to our tiny small-town salon. We were the only Black family in town, and that poor stylist truly had no idea what she was doing. It was an experience.
Thank you so much for sharing my story, Because When Life Feels Too Heavy…You Cut Sht Off.* And for the incredibly kind words about my page. My heart behind writing is simple — I want people to find comfort and humor in the weight of everyday life. There’s strength and healing in being able to laugh at the chaos.
And side note: your husband rocks. Truly. The support? The energy? You two sound like a kick-a** couple.
Cheers to our shears, omg I love it! 😄 Kids are truly ruthless sometimes, aren't they? And the Farrah Fawcett hair love, oh bless you! You are truly achieving those goals with your writing, as I have definitely found comfort and humor in it. And I am so grateful you're enjoying mine, too. Thank you so much for reading and sharing!
I’m a red head. I definitely identify with my hair. I’ve never buzzed my hair but I did get a very short pixie that was maybe ½ inch? I did the same things you did - I wore nicer clothes, more makeup, even bigger earrings to feel more feminine. But man did I love it when we went swimming or drove with the windows down. It was amazing. Growing it out was not amazing. It’s been long ever since, but turning forty it’s thinning. I always knew I’d be fine going grey, but thinning!? All this just to say it is a thing and I’m right there with you.
Yes, thank you! You totally get it, all of it. I'm definitely glad I did the thing, I'll never regret it, but wow what a lesson! I gotta admit I'm a little jealous of the red hair 😁 Red hair is gorgeous! Thank you so much for reading, Sara! 💕
The thinning at forty is the worse!😫 I already have thin hair and did not think it would get even thinner once I hit that magical number forty.
Yes, exactly! I was about 3 months pregnant when I hit 40, so the hair loss held off during those magical prenatal months, but WOW did it overcompensate after Betsy was born! It's such an ego blow that you're totally not ready for.
I thought I’d get a few more years! Such a bummer! Anything that helps?
I wish I knew. It was between scissors or adding hair extensions for me. And just the thought of adding more layers of hair to my already swamp-like soaked head sent me into a hot flash.😂 scissors won!
Yes! So many of my friends have hair extensions! And now I understand why growing up grandmas always had short hair!
lol! Yes. 🙌🏽 Grandma always knows best.
😂😂 I’m probably tired but this made me laugh so hard!
This kind of reminds me of the time I messed up cutting my own hair and I took it as an opportunity to learn how to love myself in a new way. That version of me still reminds me of that same perspective when I try new styles I don't end up liking, or only like for a little bit.
Oh that is beautiful, I love it so much! That sounds like the kind of perspective shift I'm needing, and I can't be the only one. Thank you so much for sharing this! 💕
“Hair’s The Thing” — I absolutely loved this piece. It is painfully relatable and brought me right back to my own hair horrors.
Growing up mixed (white mom, Black dad), my hair was… confused. The top? Frizzy and curly. The bottom? Stringy and straight. It had no allegiance to texture whatsoever.
And let me just add — I was born in the 80s with a mom who adored Farrah Fawcett’s hair. I’ll just let that sink in.
Your Tina Turner reference hit hard. I can still hear those ruthless third graders chanting that at me after my dad tried to fix my hair one morning — following a full meltdown over a disastrous visit to our tiny small-town salon. We were the only Black family in town, and that poor stylist truly had no idea what she was doing. It was an experience.
Thank you so much for sharing my story, Because When Life Feels Too Heavy…You Cut Sht Off.* And for the incredibly kind words about my page. My heart behind writing is simple — I want people to find comfort and humor in the weight of everyday life. There’s strength and healing in being able to laugh at the chaos.
And side note: your husband rocks. Truly. The support? The energy? You two sound like a kick-a** couple.
Cheers to our shears ✂️
Cheers to our shears, omg I love it! 😄 Kids are truly ruthless sometimes, aren't they? And the Farrah Fawcett hair love, oh bless you! You are truly achieving those goals with your writing, as I have definitely found comfort and humor in it. And I am so grateful you're enjoying mine, too. Thank you so much for reading and sharing!
😂 Thank you! Reading your story this morning was the boost I needed with my cup of coffee. Wishing you a wonderful weekend. 🌞
Right back atcha, friend. 😊